Dr. Montessori states that the
essential sin is anger, and with it, pride, for pride covers anger. When we are
angry, we are more likely to hurt somebody, physically or psychologically.
Anger incorporates an entire family of emotions, including annoyance, sulking,
self-righteousness, sarcasm and withdrawnness.
It affects our tone of voice and
facial gestures (rolling eyes, making faces) and promotes power struggles in
taking away items from others. In general, people are angry when needs are not
being met – they are unable to take ownership of their need and simply ask for
what they need, placing the fault on someone else. If the warning signs are not
heeded, the angry person is not likely to get what is needed and he may do
something he later regrets.
Biologically, the body’s response
encourages a fight or flight response, with blood going to the muscles rather
than to higher order thinking centers of the brain, causing the person to lose
sight of what needs to be done.
There is a better way.
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